It all started as a good deed for a person I follow on Twitter. Just happen that she is a public personality. Let’s call her Ms. xx. When she was feeling blue, I tried to cheer her up through my tweet. Then she tweeted back that she was happier because of my tweet. Thus I found out that we can spread happiness via conversation on social media, thus it became the idea for Happify. Go check that one out.

Then along my endeavor of developing Happify from concept to product, my back and forth with Ms. xx went on and developed. We sent each other messages, even without mentioning each other nor without context of anything whatsoever, thus #NoMention and #kode was conceived (somebody coined the term based on our interaction.)

The interaction and so-called ‘communication’ with Ms. xx was getting intense, had its ups and down. Unbeknownst to us people around us, followers or those who happen to check our timeline once in a while (stalkers!) started to discuss about this ‘relationship’ and it escalated to become the most elaborate reality show ever happened on Twitter. The concept of #NoMention and #kode was adapted to broader use, from mocking purpose to genuinely honest tweets. From there, other follow-up catch phrases and keywords was born: Galau (GalauCity, ring a bell?), Sepik, Kangen, Mantan, Move on, etc. I even have a nickname: Coffee, Universe etc. Even Gila (hello, you female book author. You know who you are. )

All hell broke loose. People talked off-and-on Twitter, mocked about it, sympathy with the protagonists, even building up their own scenario of what happened (vantage points): the guy can’t get over his ‘ex’, the crazy guy is after a celebrity girl, etc. I often stumbled into people (I don’t know,) from mocking about it to ‘falling in love’ with the protagonists in Twitter, people I don’t know mocks about our interaction off Twitter bystanders in my presence, even my own distant relative mocks in #NoMention nature.

At first it was a kind of flattery that people around us observes and take notice. But at one point it seems like there is no boundary of privacy anymore. Yes, I am taking the responsibility of my own drama until it developed into this nasty, people started to build their own drama around this drama. People starting to get involved in the drama, from ‘falling in love’ to mocks the shit out of it, and in some cases I don’t event known the person.

“Small my table, sits just two. Got so crowded, I can’t make room.” Not for You ~Pearl Jam

Eddie Vedder wrote the lyrics when he was still not getting used to being widely known and wish to maintain his privacy. That’s what I feel right now. Even when one says that I am (what they call) a selebtweet, yes thank you I am honored but that’s not my initial intention.

My initial intention was to keep spreading happiness, inspired by my interaction with Ms. xx, and thus had me going in developing Happify into a great product with good value proposition. Subconsciously I keep spreading the happiness through tweets, and having a single man looking to settle down, I might sounded like I was “sok akrab” or worse, seems like a “playboy” trying to hook up with random people, even public figure. And for that I am sorry to whom it may concern.

Subconsciously I am in my own pursuit of happiness, like that Will Smith character in the movie.

And this room is indeed too crowded now for me to focus. Yes, during my course of developing Happify, I was derailed because of all the dramas unfolding between me and Ms. xx, and let alone the people around us observing, stalking, mocking, gossiping. But not all bad. People falling in love, spread happiness, be grateful, influenced. Influenced? Yes, through my actions of keep “spreading happiness” to random people, people has adapted the ideas about spreading happiness, and as a trend, it has became way over tipping point, to the point overwhelming and I don’t have the control over. About this I will elaborate in different post.

Having written the long passage above, I am sorry if I offended you in any way and might have influenced you by my drama, for the good or the bad. I am treating this post as a ‘release’, so I can continue to focus making sure Happify is launch and developed as a great useful product of value.

Please respect my wish for privacy. If you have an issue with me or just simply want to make acquaintance (be friend), please do say hi, mention me and we can discuss on Twitter or over coffee (no pun intended.) We still can have meaningful relationship and extend our networks.

I wish you all happiness.

April Fool!

There is unprecedented 160,000 something audience over last weekend went to see The Raid, in Indonesia alone. I have been holding so long not going to see it (due to work) so that day work bites the dust, I went to see The Raid catching afternoon show at PIM 1 XXI.

With no holds barred, the action gets right to it withing 10 minutes of the movie. There was only short intro of Rama (Iko Uwais) the main protagonist must leave his pregnant wife for a tour of duty. Then cut to the SWAT team truck, the scene where his commander Jaka (Joe Taslim) give a brief to the team, in short giving the audience what is the main plot.

The location of The Raid itself is within a 30 floor building owned by a sadistic crime-lord Tama (Ray Sahetapy,) so sadistic that cut-to-cut camera works shows early on that he executed someone with a hammer for he was out of bullets. In-your-face sadistic execution lays out upfront that it was an ultra-violent movie.

The film-making style is reminiscent of classic kung-fu action movie (but bear in mind that the martial art showcased in the movie is pencak silat, a genuine Indonesian martial art,) lots of martial art choreographed beautifully by Iko Uwais (he is a pencak silat athlete,) Yayan Ruhian (Mad Dog FTW) and Gareth Evans, the director himself. On a discussion with Ayu Bulandini (former editor of First magazine) Gareth himself is very fond of the martial art, and showcased it in his previous film Merantau. The movie was produced by Ario Sagantoro.

With that contained plot and set, there’s no need to justify logic here. No need to question plot holes or incorrect facts. Pure entertainment. Personally a little too violent for me, but that’s what makes the movie special. It was not only pencak silat fights, but also action sequence of gun fights, explosions, slow motioned bullets, in short it was a stylized action movie, eastern style. To borrow from Mad Dog (Yayan Ruhian, Tama’s henchman) says in the movie, it’s better to fight bare-handed than with guns: the movie is well-hand-crafted, no big hooplas. Efficient productions, given the limited budget.

For distribution, the producers utilized the distribution line of Hong Kong kung-fu movie, so it’s targeting a specific and direct market. What amazes me that Mike Shinoda of Linkin park gets the scoring works for the movie, it also cross-market itself to huge Linkin park fanbase, giving it an international appeal (it is already a box-office in the U.S.) Mike’s work is also stunning, atmospheric LinkinParkesque beat and distortion.

All in all appreciate Gareth Evans for personally showcasing Indonesian movie to international world and kudos producers, cast & crew for a great work. Looking forward to the sequel: Berandal (2013.)

There goes a hashtag from many tweets emitted from that auditorium in @America, the most modern cultural center in Jakarta. It was already 7.20 PM and I was late for that March 24, 2012 Navicula show at @America. As I entered the auditorium, “Aku Bukan Mesin” the 4th song was already playing.

It was your usual Navicula setlist. Like pros the quartet performed top-notched rock, well, grunge concert. It needs to be connected to grunge because earlier that day Pearl Jam Indonesia kicked-off a Blog Competition with topic on “Pearl Jam and Grunge.” Well, Navicula claimed that its genre is psychedelic grunge. Dankie’s blues solo guitar licks adds to Robi’s heavy and dirty guitar, kept by Made Indra’s bass and Gembull’s drum’s tight rhythm section. Psychedelic means that their music is intoxicating. And indeed it’s true.

That night what interests me was they give their time every once in a while to various NGO’s for great causes. Navicula is well known for its outspoken speeches by Robi in and out of songs. This time around they brings friends from Akarumput, Center for Orangutan Protection (COP), Greenpeace Mata Harimau, etc. They held a mini talk shows to talk about respective causes, from endangerment of Orangutan, tiger and elephants caused by human greed. campaign videos also being played. I respect Navicula because I think this is one among rare artists to leverage their position to great campaigns.

In conjunction with PJ-ID’s Blog Competition, Dankie with acoustic guitar and harmonica sang “Just Breath.” To remember Munir they played “Refuse To Forget.” Then nearing the end of the show they played rare songs such as “Like A Motorcycle”, “Supermarket Bencana” and closed by “Televishit.” Not to leave fans hanging they played encore with “Suram wajah Negeri.” Robi asked the audience to stand up front near the stage, and the audience did that and more, moshing and crowd surfing, making the @America foreigner official busy to keep them behave. I never seen scene like that in @America ever. Only Navicula can do that. Then before we realized the show was over, leaving me wishing I had came in time.

Sorry for the lame videos. Took it with a limited phone camera. Should better video surfaced on YouTube I will change them. The whole performance of Navicula is now available. I will exhange it with my lame videos. Or, if I can’t do that, here’s Navicula video for “Orangutan”, also to help shine a light on this issue of Orangutan slaughter by palm plantation. “Orangutan akan jadi legenda.”

It’s been the 6th Java Jazz Festival already, but haven’t been to it until this year of 2012. It was a last minute decision. The words of JJF is already buzzing on my Twitter stream, but hasn’t compelled to move it and buy ticket. The fact that Stevie Wonder’s special show ticket has already reached a staggering Rp.1.8 million even encouraged me more.

Don’t get me wrong, I can enjoy jazz, but not that crazy about it. I am compelled more into Java Rockin’ Land Festival more because, yeah, I’m a rock guy. But on the 1st day of Java Jazz Show I took a peak at the line-up, and it was great! All the special show, even the free shows are great. I frantically look for tickets on Twitter. A friend reached me through BBM and offered me a One-Day Pass ticket, she said she can’t make it on Sunday. But than being a lazy ass as myself I procrastinated until the next morning, eventually her ticket was sold out to another guy. But luckily some tweeps replied me on Friday, offering me to sell theirs. I reached out to one of the seller, exchanged no & BBM Pin, and had agreed to transact Saturday night at Rumah Kayu restaurant, as far as Serpong, near Summarecon Mall Serpong.

Then there I was, after a jam session with guys from Pearl jam Indonesia (photos) that Saturday (4 Mar 12,) I was going to JJF Day #3 by taxi. It was an impulsive decision so hadn’t gotten in touch with friends to meetup there. All I am looking forward to is the Swing Out Sister, the other act was just bonus. There, the rain was starting to fall when I exchanged my invitation which I bought for a bargain (Rp.250,000.)

Hasn’t done much of an orientation. Didn’t buy the program book/magazine which was quite expensive (Rp.25,000), let alone it’s just an impromptu concert going, only a day. Went straight in front of D3 hall, and wait in line. Queued till 20 minutes late then the door opened. Then I scrambled inside, and get front and center, right in front of the barricade. There’s white curtains hanging in front of the stage. Some lights are slightly on, giving a sillhouette of might happened behind the curtains. From the band sound-checking their instruments to Corrine Drewery stretching out for a warm-up.

After more ‘waiting game’ (no pun intended) the curtains opened. I always thought of Swing Out Sister as this jazz-pop moniker with cute Corinne Drewery and suave Andy Connell building up that image of Swing Out Sister as a hip and cool band, which they maintained gracefully while still give relevance to today’s music scene. Corinne is still beautiful at her age, while Andy has gain much weight. this time around, besides their standard band (Corinne: vocals, Andy: keyboards, backing vocals, guitars, upright bass, percussions) they also bring along a 9-piece brass section, forming a Big Band.

Through the opening song Twilight World I still can’t believe my eyes and ears. Swing Out Sister rearranged all their repertoire into more of a jazz arrangement. Their brass section also gave the arrangements fresh. By the 2nd song You On My Mind my tears started to fall while I sang along with them. That what music can do to your soul, because my fondness of them from since my junior high school.

You On My Mind

Breakout

Right after I secured my place front and center, met my friend Ayu Bulandini, Sigit Yuwono and their friends. After the satisfaction of Swing Out Sister, we went outside and eat some Amigos’ beef burritos, then went to see Mayer Hawthorne. Known this artist from tweets of one of my followings months ago. Apparently Mayer Hawthorne already had a gig on clubs in Jakarta (I thought it was Dragonfly) so I assumed that he’s a DJ. Then he showed up, played that guitar and synth, and I like his music right away. With a backing band titled “The County”, Mayer Hawthorne is straight up ‘white’ pop soul artist. Didn’t manage to pinpoint what genre he is until he covers Hall & Oates. Yeah, he’s the ‘Hall & Oates’ for this hipster generation. Let alone his cool and nerdy look, a soul version of River Cuomo, wins his fans over. Will definitely check his music out.

Then we went to go see this alternative-jazz from japan Soil+Pimp. It’s a jazz with extended skills to belong in the same rack with Mr. Bungle. The trumpet & saxophone is resemblance with John Zorn’s work on Mr. Bungle. Other members on keyboard, drums and upright bass are skillful too. Pretty good to hear for me maybe 15 years ago, but not this old me. But still appreciate their music.

All in all it was a great virgin Java Jazz Fest experience for me. The event are splendidly organized, big kudos for Peter Gontha, Dewi Gontha & EQ Puradiredja of Java Festival Productions.

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• Have a future wife
• Meet new people & maintain relationship
• Healthy diet & steady exercise
• Cater to my father’s health
• Launch Happify
• Kickstart Project #NoMention
• Relaunch Tag Design
• Do more blogging
• Kickstart property business
• Wear glasses (20 Feb 2012)

This post was written on May 3, 2011 as a draft, never see the light of day until now, the last day of 2011. It’s about a project about something that has became a passion of mine for quite some time now. It’s about happiness.

Koi Cafe & Gallery, 3 May 2011, 7.30 PM

Here I am, sitting here in this posh café on a long comfy sofa. Just closed a web design project deal but my client @imbipulungan has long gone for a yoga session. My MacBookPro is still displaying web browser with website I am working on. A twitter client also present on the side of the screen, displaying my timeline, scrolling down endlessly. Nothing there caught my eye though. Even the work on screen. My mind was wondering somewhere else. Exact same venue, but was on the old location though. When nothing happened.

I was torn whether I am ordering dinner or not. My body doesn’t want to eat, but my mind craves for something. And also I need to go to the restroom. I relented and ordered a fried rice with Australian lamb. Gave a gesture to the waiter to keep an eye on my computer while I finished my business.

Back where I was. Feel like doing something, but not working. What is it? Writing this? Yes, I had procrastinated writing this for quite a long time now. My life story. My pursuit of something. The story behind this and that. Heck, I haven’t writing about anything for a long portion in my life, other that HTML tags and CSS Divs and Classes. Has I restraint myself from expressing myself through writing. Why, I asked myself. And why now? why writing now? I don’t know. It’s what the Universe has planned to happen I guess.

This is what it is that’s happening. I am writing not what I hope to happen, nor what I wish not happening. I write the story as it is happening. I remember a line said by a female character from a movie that I love. but it’s on the tip of my brain, can’t recall. But this is not her story, nor anybody else’s. it’s my story.

The story is about happiness, and how everybody is in pursuit of happiness. Each and every one of us always think, talk, be, do something in order to make us happier. My story is my own little pursuit of my happiness, and how I made someone else happier, and it made me happy.

(stopped writing, checking on my timeline)

Yes, you might say that I am obsessed with happiness. Without hesitation I confess I am. All of my life I’m always seeking to be happy. One’s never realized he’s in pursuit of happiness, until he realized that it’s within him all along. It’s nowhere out there. it’s in us.

To come to that conclusion I went through a hell of a ride. But things happening the last 1 year has brought a lot of enlightenment to me, and I am hoping with this writings, I can share things that has enlightened me to others who read this, to you. Yes, you. Hope that by sharing happiness we can make ourselves better, lift ourselves through hard times and can see silver linings in the darkest cloud.

Just made a random “Get well soon” to a person (@PutriSentanu) I follow on Twitter, although I don’t know her personally.

In fact, the whole thing was started when I made someone happier, a particular public personality (@rahmahumayya) I cheered up through Twitter. One day she tweeted that she is in such a bad mood. Out of the blue I then replied to her aforementioned tweet, trying sincerely to cheer her up spontaneously.

She is a famous TV & radio personality, a model and an MC. I only know her through sites, television and magazines. All this time I only follow her. Well, before that tweet convo every once in a while I RT or reply to her tweet. But this time I just do what my heart said, cheer a person in need, make her happier.

From the response seems like she’s happier. And that also made me feel good and warm inside. No, it’s not that I managed to make a public figure happier. But I managed to make someone happier. Someone, an acquaintance or a stranger is not even in the picture.

In one of those wisdom tweets, the late Lady Diana Spencer once suggests us to do random act of kindness. This must be one of those.

Since then, I am randomly trying to make other people happier through tweets. Sometimes with the expected result, the other times it’s a whole different outcome. People tend to label me as ‘galau’ (jaded in Indonesian,) ‘gila’ (crazy,) and with other names. Others even dissed me for being too offensive and plain antisocial, not conforming to any socially accepted value.

Yes I admit many times I was not in a state of happiness in other to make other happy. I am sorry if I offended anybody, I’m just a human being who tries to communicate.

The first tweet and all these interaction with her sparks me an idea about an app, which also has been an obsession for me all these times. That what’s making me address her as Muse. More of that along with the story.

I continue to interact on Twitter with @rahmahumayya with all the ups and downs, the dramas and the comedies. I thought those helped start up the #NoMention and #Kode (#code) thing. The galau tweets. The song lyric tweets. The YouTube dedications.

Many might have the perception that this is like a star-struck regular guy falls in love with a celebrity , and trying all his best to woo her. Well, at first I admit I didn’t know what I felt. Being a healthy single guy must’ve taken tolls many times. All I wanted to do is make her happy. Make anybody happy, in particular the twemans in my time line. The tweeps I follow or even random tweeps which I don’t follow.

With this story I pay highest respect to @rahmahumayya. I honor her private life. Just wanted to share my side of the story. My perception of it. How I learn in life. In my pursuit of happiness. By making other people happy.

farry @salsabeela I am starting writing, now!
salsabeela @farry good luck!

(To be continued)

Disclaimer:

• I will try my best to contact the person mentioned in the story to ask for permission
• To a person I mentioned here in the story, if you have objection that I mentioned your name, please mention of DM me on Twitter (@farry) or email me (farry@happify.us) and I will try to remove your Twitter-name without sacrificing the essence of the story, or I will use a pseudo-Twitter-name.

Hi all. This is maybe my first blog post in years. So bear with me if my way of writing a little bit rusty.

I am an ordinary man. I live by myself. I come from a middle class family of 5 children. Actually my blood sibling is only 2. The rest is a step sister, and 1 comes from same father. My mom passed away when I was 8 from a breast cancer. My father remarried 2 years later (I think.)

I will skip you with all the details of my life time, which has brought me to this point. I will try to be as general as I can, but without leaving out anything important enough to be written.

I came from a family that’s; compared to maybe your family; is considered dysfunctional family. I experienced things in the past that maybe been pushed down inside my subconsciousness, and makes me who I am today. Not that long time ago I’ve just realized that I am unhappy. Been aware of it since mid-college. Ever since then I was in endless relentless effort to make myself happy. I had my ups and downs. In the times where the people around me was happy, I wasn’t. I was considered late about appreciating things that makes people happy. I am an unhappy man.

Until one time my experience in Twitter, where at one particular conversation with a person I followed. I don’t know her personally. But when she tweets about being in a down-low, I replied with a consolation in under 140 characters, just out of randomness. Then she was cheered up and by doing that I was also happy (thank you Muse!) Then it strikes to me and give me inspiration what I want to do is to make people happier through what I do as a Web Developer (a Startup company, more on that later.) In the end it will make me happy. and we all happy together.

Along the way I’m trying to make other people happy, and also got mixed up about falling in love. Yes, I have a not-so-ideal family and planned hard to have one of my own, so I can create happiness environment in my own family. In effort to do that I got confused about consoling and make people happy, and wooing and dropping lines to people. That might build me some kind of reputation, which I can’t control, I can’t help it. I just want to make people happy, and myself happy. But in the same time I want to fall in love with my future wife, and create a happy family. Yes, I sometimes (many times!) pushed too hard to make people happy, even disregarding my reputation. Maybe my subconscious pushed me, I just want to be happy, by pushing it too hard. Maybe to some people it’s too close for comfort (annoying!) And for that, to whom it may concerned, I am sorry. I’m just a human being. Fame and celebrityhood is never my goal.

I just want to be happy.
I want to make other people happy (and myself,) grow my own happy family.

Artikel ini aslinya ditulis oleh teman saya Sofie di Facebook Note-nya. Saya mendapatkan afirmasi instan dari posting ini, jadi saya kutip ulang di blog saya. Thanks Sofie.

Oleh: Soufiarina Sofie

Ketika mendengar berita buruk, jantung kita langsung berdebar, nafas menjadi pendek, wajah kita berkerut.
Ketika mendengar berita gembira, hati kita melonjak, wajah kita tersenyum.
Dari kedua contoh di atas, tercermin bahwa pikiran kita selalu bereaksi/ bergejolak terhadap situasi dan kondisi yang terjadi dalam kehidupan kita sehari-hari sehingga kita kehilangan –“center“ (kondisi bathin yang balance).
Ini menggambarkan kebiasaan reaksi (mind)kita bekerja secara automatis, terkondisi dan tak menentu, sudah terprogram.
Di sinilah kita perlu melatih kondisi mind kita agar selalu berada dalam kondisi Equanimity. (Bagi saya pribadi inilah meditasi yang sebenarnya).Equanimity adalah suatu kondisi keseimbangan bathin (mind) yang mampu untuk tetap tenang dan seimbang di tengah-tengah gejolak hidup.
Orang yang sudah menguasai equanimity, temperamennya tetap seimbang tidak terpengaruh dengan apa yg terjadi di luar.
Mereka telah belajar untuk tidak memperturutkan pada sesuatu yang mereka suka atau tidak suka, tidak juga bereaksi terhadap situasi sesuai keinginan atau keengganan mereka.
Ini tidak mudah untuk dunia yang serba modern sekarang ini. Dengan segala problema, keinginan, kebutuhan dan kekacauan lingkungan yang terjadi.

Equinimity merupakan konsep yang sulit untuk diterapkan.
Ketika emosi (emosi negatif/marah atau positif/gembira) yang kuat datang—terhadap kesakitan atau kesenangan, kesuksesan atau kegagalan, keadaan stress atau lega respon kita–- coba ingatkan pada diri kita dan katakan, “Ini juga akan berlalu“ (karena semua tidak ada yang kekal)

Seseorang menanggapi, “tapi tunggu dulu, saya mengerti kalau kita harus tidak bergejolak dan tetap tenang menghadapi kesulitan, tapi kalau salah untuk bereaksi menikmati kebahagiaan? Ini sama saja seperti kita diminta untuk mati rasa samasekali terhadap apapun. Saya lebih memilih untuk merasakan apapun walaupun kadang menyakitkan“.
Lalu, bagaimana dengan bereaksi untuk memperjuangkan keadilan demi kepentingan umum? Kalau kita tidak bereaksi dan bertindak terhadap semua kericuhan yang terjadi, bagaimana kita akan membuat perubahan terhadap lingkungan dan dunia ini?

Kedua tanggapan di atas adalah point yang bagus. Kita tetap bisa merasakan sesuatu dengan dalam, tanpa kehilangan keseimbangan di bathin (mind) kita. Bathin (mind) kita tetap dalam ketenangan.
Dengan mempraktekkan equanimity, kita belajar menyesuaikan tendensi kita terhadap kekhawatiran.
Ketika kita membaca berita, khawatir terhadap keadaan ekonomi, bangsa, negara dan dunia. Hal seperti ini pantas untuk di perdulikan, tapi kekhawatiran kita dan meributkan keadaan itu tidak akan ada habisnya dan tidak akan membuahkan hasil apa-apa. Kalau kita benar-benar memahami bahwa tidak ada sesuatu yang terjadi secara kebetulan dan tidak ada sesuatupun yang terjadi tanpa makna & pelajaran bagi orang2 yang terkait di dalamnya, maka kita akan menerima semua itu dengan tersenyum memperhatikan drama kehidupan ini dari sisi ’OBSERVER’ yang paham akan pelajaran hidup sambil mengamati peran pemain2 drama ini dengan simpati.
Dengan menjaga bathin (mind) kita dalam ’Equanimity’ secara energy kita belajar untuk tidak terseret vibrasi atau frekuensi orang2 yang bereaksi dengan kondisi external itu.

Mempraktekkan Equnimity memungkinkan kita untuk melihat segala sesuatu apa adanya, pada saat bersamaan tidak menjadi ‘attach’ terhadap hasilnya.
Equanimity– The Pali word Uppekkha, meaning to look over, comes from the ability to observe and not attach to the objects of our observation.
Equanimity is perfect, unshakeable balance of mind and rooted insight.

Equinimity bukan berarti kita menjadi tidak peduli terhadap suatu kejadian. Malah sebaliknya kita cukup berani mengakui bahwa kita tidak selalu mempunyai jawaban atas segala masalah. Kita menyadari bahwa kita tidak dapat mengontrol masa depan. Apa yang kita pikirkan mungkin bisa atau mungkin tidak bisa menjadi jalan keluar untuk jangka panjang atau mungkin juga bukan jalan yang terbaik untuk suatu “Big Picture”.
Dengan tetap berada dalam ‘equanimity’ kita membuka segala peluang kemunginan yang akan datang.

Di dalam Buddhism, Sufism dan kabalah, kondisi equanimity, muncul sabagai tanda sesorang yang sudah mencapai ‘Enlightenment’, sebagai kualitas yang penting dan mengagumkan dari kondisi hati dan pikiran (Mind and Heart). Pikiran-hati yang lapang, memberikan ruang untuk setiap kesulitan dan daya tarik kehidupan, untuk menerima segala sesuatu yang kita inginkan dan yang tidak kita inginkan. Equanimity mengijinkan kita untuk hidup bebas, membiarkan apapun mempunyai tempatnya sendiri tanpa kita berada di dalamnya, atau tanpa menyeret kita.
Dalam kondisi Equanimity, kita hidup dalam kondisi ‘saat ini’ tanpa terbelengu tidak juga berjuang untuk sesuatu yang tidak dapat kita elak-kan dalam hidup ini.
*Mengambil sedikit Kutipan dari Frederic and Mary Ann Brussat